I’m Not Looking For Someone

single quoteWhy is it that if we are single, we have to be looking for someone to end our life of single-dom?

Why is it so hard for people to believe that one can actually happy about being single?

Why is being single a bad thing?

Why can’t we just be?

I feel that the general public assume that if a young woman is single, she is looking for a significant other to end her life of solitude. I know this can apply to men as well, but I feel like men aren’t under as much pressure to settle down and start a family. (I guess it’s because they don’t have a biological clock ticking. Personally, I don’t even know if I want children. If I do ever get married, and I’m not able to have biological children anymore, and I really want kids, I’ll adopt. Simple.)

I’ve mentioned this before, but I really hate it when the first question I get asked from old acquaintances is “is there a guy in your life?”. The very idea that there must be significant other is not okay. It’s not okay to ask that question to anyone unless you see a significant ring on their left hand. And, don’t even get me started on set-ups. Ugh. If I’m going to meet someone, I want it to happen naturally. I don’t want to meet someone online, I don’t want to facebook stalk or be facebook stalked before we meet.

I don’t make friends with guys thinking of their potential as future boyfriend material. I have guy friends who are my guy friends and that’s it.

I am happy and content being single. I’m not lonely. I’m not looking for someone. I know that’s very unbelievable for some people, but there it is.


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