Bridging the Gap

I know I talk a lot about friends I’ve lost after they got married. [Exhibit A] Well, there are a select few friends (who I can count them on one hand with a couple of fingers to spare) where this did not happen. Here are a few things that I think helped “bridge the gap”, at least for me..


  • Limit Couple Talk – Now, don’t get me wrong. I absolutely want to hear about how your life is going. I’m not some weirdo who only wants to talk about things we have in common. BUT, limit the couple talk. Don’t spend the entire time we’re together talking about couple things. I am not in a couple nor do I live with a man. I cannot relate.
  • Ask About My Life – This sounds simple, but you’d be surprised how many times I have spent time with people and all they do is talk about themselves. (Of course this happens with single people too.) These type of people never ask questions, and they always interrupt you with something (“my horse is bigger than your horse”). This is a relationship – give and take.
  • Do Things That You’ve Always Done – Okay, I’m not sure if this one makes sense (the title anyways), but what I mean is continue to do things together that you did before the marriage. If you went to dinner and a bookstore every other Tuesday night, continue to do that! Or if you met for brunch once a month, keep it up. Keep the relationship going.
  • Don’t Try To Set Me Up – Ugh this is the worst. I am sooooo tired of people trying to set me up with so and so. It’s always awkward and never works out. Just be okay with the fact that I don’t have a somebody at the moment.

These are just a few things that I’ve noticed that work for me. Did I miss anything? Would you add anything else? Let me know in the comments!



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