Or, alternate title, THINGS YOU SHOULD NOT ASK SOMEONE WHO YOU HAVEN’T SEEN IN YEARS.
Last month, I was sitting in my chiropractor’s office when I hear someone say, “Katy?” I look up and it is a woman who I haven’t seen in maybe 10 years or so? She wasn’t even someone I knew very well. Her daughter went to school with my younger brothers. Basically, this woman is an acquaintance who I hadn’t seen in forever. ANYWAYS, I respond with the “oh hi!” that comes out when you’re not expecting to talk to someone and don’t want to have a long conversation. The first question that comes out of her mouth (I KID YOU NOT) is, “Did you get married?” The smile instantly comes off my face and I give her a short, “No.” She fumbles about seeing a ring on my finger (it was a silver ring on my right hand?) and I fake smile as I go in for my adjustment, not saying another word.
Why was this the first question? This is SO inappropriate. Why don’t people understand this? Maybe I’m the only person that feels this way, but I legit get offended when the first question out of someone’s mouth is “are you dating anybody”, or “are you seeing anyone”, or “are you married yet?”. Like having a significant other would be the most interesting thing about me. I have so many interesting things about me that I would love to talk about other than my freaking relationship status.
Just, if you see someone who you haven’t seen in a while, ask them a general “how’s life?” or “what’s new with you?” DON’T ASK ME ABOUT MY RELATIONSHIP STATUS. It makes me very angry.
Do any of you deal with this as well? LMK in the comments.