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Don’t Forget to Live..

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Hello there. It has been a minute..

Still single. Still happy about it.

When I woke up this morning I couldn’t help think of a girl I know. I don’t know why she cropped up in my head first thing, but there it is.. She is in her late twenties and ever since I can remember, she has been hunting for a husband. She has had several relationships, but all of them have ended.. She even got close to an engagement, but it ended up not working out. Her life goal is just to get married. Last year, her brother got married and she could not be happy for them. She was so hung up on not being married herself, that she could not be happy for her brother. This is not okay.

I want to be clear on something. A good relationship, a good marriage, is absolutely a wonderful thing. If you have found your forever person, that is fantastic. But if that does not happen, YOU CAN STILL BE HAPPY AND FULFILLED. In the words of J. K. Rowling:

“It does not do to dwell on dreams and forget to live.”

I know I have said this before, but do not wait to live your life! Go on a trip by yourself, discover your passions, learn to love yourself, enjoy the quiet..

Yep, still single.

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Hello, if anyone is still out there..

It has been about a year and a half since I last posted on this little blog of mine. So 2020, amirite? I am sure a lot of people struggled with being alone during quarantine last year (and this year, what even is happening), and I hope you’re doing okay.

Anyways, just wanted to pop in to say hello. Yes, I am still single, and I actually get more happy about it with each year it seems. I was just talking to my best friend the other day (who is also single in her 30s) and really at this point, I am really happy being on my own. I have a cat-child, I have my own home that is completely me, and I like not sharing space. And I really don’t want to share a bathroom with a boy. Ew.

My standards and lists seem to get higher as I get older and the availability of men get smaller.. I mean, I’ve held out for this long, why would I settle?? At this point, if I give up my single-hood, it’s gotta be for like a Duke (a-la the Duke from Bridgerton) or Tom Hiddleston or something.

I am genuinely curious if I still get readers. I’ve never had much engagement on this blog (lots of readers but not a lot of interaction), but if you’re out there, I’d like to say hello and if you’re single and not happy about it, give me a note and I’ll talk the singleness up a bunch (or you can just go back and read my old posts).

Inappropriate Conversations

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Or, alternate title, THINGS YOU SHOULD NOT ASK SOMEONE WHO YOU HAVEN’T SEEN IN YEARS.

Last month, I was sitting in my chiropractor’s office when I hear someone say, “Katy?” I look up and it is a woman who I haven’t seen in maybe 10 years or so? She wasn’t even someone I knew very well. Her daughter went to school with my younger brothers. Basically, this woman is an acquaintance who I hadn’t seen in forever. ANYWAYS, I respond with the “oh hi!” that comes out when you’re not expecting to talk to someone and don’t want to have a long conversation. The first question that comes out of her mouth (I KID YOU NOT) is, “Did you get married?” The smile instantly comes off my face and I give her a short, “No.” She fumbles about seeing a ring on my finger (it was a silver ring on my right hand?) and I fake smile as I go in for my adjustment, not saying another word.

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Why was this the first question? This is SO inappropriate. Why don’t people understand this? Maybe I’m the only person that feels this way, but I legit get offended when the first question out of someone’s mouth is “are you dating anybody”, or “are you seeing anyone”, or “are you married yet?”. Like having a significant other would be the most interesting thing about me. I have so many interesting things about me that I would love to talk about other than my freaking relationship status.
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Just, if you see someone who you haven’t seen in a while, ask them a general “how’s life?” or “what’s new with you?” DON’T ASK ME ABOUT MY RELATIONSHIP STATUS. It makes me very angry.
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Do any of you deal with this as well? LMK in the comments.

An Unexpected Journey

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If I had to title my adult life, it would definitely be An Unexpected Journey [I mean, it’s a true statement, and I mean, Tolkien..].img_8495_facetune_19-05-2019-10-31-38.jpeg

You see, over the past couple of weeks I have been reflecting on the last decade of my life. I’ve been reflecting because I just celebrated my 10 year anniversary of graduating COLLEGE. Whoa. It feels like it was a completely different life, and back then, I imagined a completely different life for myself. Continue reading →

Why Do Women Hide Their Age?

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So I recently had another birthday (32!) and I have no problem with it! What? You’re over thirty and single and no kids and you’re okay with that?! Yes. Yes I am. tenorWhich brings me to ask the question, why do women hide their age? Men never hide their age. When someone asks them how old they are they straight up tell you. Recently, I was on Instagram, and several people posted one of those things that are numbered 1-30 and you give them a number and they answer the question that coincides with the number.. Anyways, I asked all of them for their age.. Now, maybe that’s politically incorrect, but frankly my dear, I don’t give a damn. And I’m just a very curious person. I’m that person who looks up every actor and actress in a TV show or movie to see when they were born. Maybe that makes me weird? Anyways, half of the people who I asked how old they were (all women) declined to answer. They just had one of those “old enough to remember such and such” or “sorry, no” or “teehee, I’ll let you wonder”.. I don’t get that. I love telling people how old I am. I guess maybe because I have such a young face, I like to see that reaction when people find out that I’m like 10 years older than them. Just own it!

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Am I the only one that wants to break that stigma? If you agree, tell me how old you are in the comments!

 

Bridging the Gap

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I know I talk a lot about friends I’ve lost after they got married. [Exhibit A] Well, there are a select few friends (who I can count them on one hand with a couple of fingers to spare) where this did not happen. Here are a few things that I think helped “bridge the gap”, at least for me..

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  • Limit Couple Talk – Now, don’t get me wrong. I absolutely want to hear about how your life is going. I’m not some weirdo who only wants to talk about things we have in common. BUT, limit the couple talk. Don’t spend the entire time we’re together talking about couple things. I am not in a couple nor do I live with a man. I cannot relate.
  • Ask About My Life – This sounds simple, but you’d be surprised how many times I have spent time with people and all they do is talk about themselves. (Of course this happens with single people too.) These type of people never ask questions, and they always interrupt you with something (“my horse is bigger than your horse”). This is a relationship – give and take.
  • Do Things That You’ve Always Done – Okay, I’m not sure if this one makes sense (the title anyways), but what I mean is continue to do things together that you did before the marriage. If you went to dinner and a bookstore every other Tuesday night, continue to do that! Or if you met for brunch once a month, keep it up. Keep the relationship going.
  • Don’t Try To Set Me Up – Ugh this is the worst. I am sooooo tired of people trying to set me up with so and so. It’s always awkward and never works out. Just be okay with the fact that I don’t have a somebody at the moment.

These are just a few things that I’ve noticed that work for me. Did I miss anything? Would you add anything else? Let me know in the comments!

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Disney World – Solo Style

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chipndaleFor those who don’t know me, it is a little known fact (just kidding everyone knows) that I am a bit obsessed with all things Disney. I love it so much that I decided to become a Disney World annual passholder last year. And I have totally gotten my money’s worth out of it. A couple of weeks ago, I was needing to get away so I decided to take a little trip by myself to Disney World. Now, it may be a bit weird to some people – heck it was a bit weird to most of the castmembers when I replied with “one” to the question “How many?”, but I had so much fun! There were a couple of times that I wished someone was there with me, but for the most part, I had a blast!

Here are some of the best things about going to Disney World alone:

  • Getting Through Crowds – It’s amazing how many people can fit into the Disney Parks. It’s also miserable trying to cut through them. But, when you’re alone, you can move SO MUCH FASTER. You never have to look back to see if your friends are keeping up with you. One night I went to the fireworks show at Epcot, and ended up being one of the first ones to the parking lot trams because I wspace (2)as able to weave in and out of people so quickly. It was actually fun. Ha.
  • Rides – Now, it isn’t the most enjoyable experience waiting in lines by yourself. I ended up skipping rides that had waits that were longer than 30-45 minutes. A lot of the time, castmembers will call out for “single riders” and you end up getting to skip a bunch of people to get to the front. (Also, Avatar: Flight Of Passage has a single rider line, once you get to the final waiting area.)
  • Rest – If you’ve ever been to Disney World, you know how exhausting it can be. What’s great about being there solo, is that I can go back to my hotel around 2:00 in the afternoon, rest up for a couple of hours, and go back to the parks refreshed (this is also a big perk of being a passholder) without feeling guilty that I made anyone miss out on any fun.
  • Food – This one’s pretty simple.. Food is much quicker for one person and it’s easier to find a place to sit and eat.

That’s all I have for now. Have any of you ever been to Disney by yourself? Would this be something you would ever consider? Let me know in the comments!
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Why I’m Single & Austenland

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If you have not seen the movie Austenland, stop what you’re doing and go watch it.

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And we’re back. Ha. So Austenland is one of my favorite movies in recent years. It’s inspired by a book of the same name by Shannon Hale. The main character of the story is Jane Hayes, who is over 30, single, and slightly (okay, extremely) obsessed with Pride & Prejudice. Here is a perfect line of dialogue that completely applies to my life:

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Jane gets to live her fantasy of being in a Jane Austen book (I wanna do it!). Much revelry is to be had.

That’s really all I wanted to say…

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Excuse me while I go find a beautiful Regency gown and a bonnet.

Random Blather

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I haven’t posted in a  hot minute, so I figured I would take this opportunity to rant for a a wee second.

So I know three people who are younger than me who all have just gotten married…for the second time. Most of me is like “oh my gosh I’m so glad I’m not on my second marriage at this age”. But the petty bit of me is like “how come they get two go’s at the whole marriage thing and I haven’t even had one go at it yet?!”

Now, I know I am being completely unreasonable and I don’t even know these people that well (anymore), but there it is. 463ec9054828f5acd98030653a2980c5

Anyways, just thought I’d share my random silly thought process. And I am definitely happy that I’m still single and not on a second marriage.

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House Hunting

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So as evidenced by the title of this blog, I am a single lady. Now, I love being a single lady. I love my freedom and my life in general. Yeah, sometimes I get bummed about not having a plus one, but I have lady friends for that!

Anyways, all that being said, it’s never been as frustrating being a single lady as I have found it to be trying to buy a house. And no, I don’t mean the advantage of having a second income. I mean, I have to give up lots of houses because the location is not safe for a woman to live there by herself, which is super sucky.

I wish I didn’t have to say no to houses I love because I don’t have a man to protect me. Ugh. I’m having to look in neighborhoods with mostly old people or cookie cutter houses because they have a connected a garage. What is a girl to do?!

emma-stone-making-noise-bored-at-the-dinner-table-in-easy-a-gifI know that I will find the right house eventually, but right now it’s super frustrating. Anyone else ever run across this life problem?

xxKaty